Now I know very well that my rule for this project is that I have to respond to everyone that messages me, but I ask you, dear reader, how does one properly answer a message such as "Was up? U r hot."?
I suppose a polite "thank you" works, but where do you go from there? Besides, I would really like to go on a date that won't inevitably turn into an English lesson.
Though, I must say - while sifting through handfuls of monosyllabic, misspelled attempts at a true "love connection" - I have found a few messages that actually caught my attention. Trust me ladies, it's all in the approach. I am so much more inclined to respond to a message which not only is longer than a few words but also shows signs of the genuine effort Bachelor #1 put into writing it.
For example, "Dog Guy*" sent me a message, after viewing my photos, that we have the same breed of dog then proceeded to ask me about mine and tell me about his. He was followed by "The Quizmaster" who thoroughly read my profile and asked me a series of in depth questions to learn more about me. When either party makes that sort of effort on the front end I find that the conversation tends to flow much, much more comfortably.
I have to say that so far I am a sucker for the guys who take the time to read my profile and tailor their message to me as opposed to those who are under the impression that dates are won simply by telling a woman how "hot" she is in her photos.
Alas, there's no such thing as a free lunch - apparently even the convenience of internet dating must be tempered by the idiocy of a few would-be Casanovas.
Until I can emerge from under this growing stack of dating site messages,
Kristin
*Nicknames given to protect privacy and to help me keep everyone straight!
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